Thursday, April 11, 2013

An Ongoing Process: Calming Our Inner Critic

The hardest job we will ever do is to calm our inner critic.
Author Hannah Braime gives some tips on how to do that in her
article: "4 Ways to Use Journaling to Calm Your Inner Critic."
I wanted to post it to my blog so I can have it for reference.
Below is a dialogue tip by Braime and the link to her article.

One quick tip centers around dialogue.

"Start by asking your inner critic to tell you more about a particular statement it made recently, or with a more general dialogue about your feelings. The aim of this is to start a constructive conversation that helps you understand and even empathize with your inner critic’s motivations.

When I realized that my inner critic was trying to protect me from the criticism of specific childhood figures—people I’m not around anymore—it was a lot easier to understand, accept, and reassure the critic. Consequently, the critic’s words became less powerful."

Thursday, May 31, 2012

Children Show Us Exactly Where We Need To Heal Ourselves

I always enjoy reading articles that illuminate what we now know to be true about the formative years. This article does that nicely and includes some tips on how we parents can nurture ourselves through our triggers. :)

What did you learn before you were eight?

Friday, March 18, 2011

The Courage To Be Vulnerable

Awesome stuff by Gabor how Mate uses his own personal challenges and experiences here to show how it that!...the only thing missing here is the importance of crying and raging, aka, grieving to naturally regain compassion toward our selves and others. It's an inside job first....

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

What's up with self-nurturing?

The presentation below by Bruce Lipton on "Nature, Nurture & The Power Of Love: The Biology of Conscious Parenting" highlights how important it is to learn to nurture our selves and rewrite the beliefs we downloaded during the prenatal, delta and theta phases of human development, which is the time before conception up to about 6 years of age.

The presentation is divided into two parts. This first part lays the foundation for epigenetics, also known as new biology. Lipton explains how perception, especially in the first 6 years of life, is what controls our biology, not our genes, which has long been the belief system.

Part One: (copy link into URL)

The second part, among many things, demonstrates how the ability to nurture is a learned behavior imprinted during the first 6 years of life. Lipton contends that whether we realize it or not, nurturing may not be what we are doing as parents, even if we think we are. He gives a wonderful example of how this happens in the second part of the presentation. He points out how the beliefs we learned up to 6 years of age are not in our awareness, making it hard to see how we sabotage ourselves. A parent's willingness to nurture a child, as Lipton shows, may often require replacing old, unconscious childhood beliefs with new, life-serving ones. Epigenetics showcases the power we all have in shaping our lives and our world. It is an empowering presentation.

Part Two: